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Did you know that what is commonly known as low (unhealthy) self-esteem is the root cause of the majority of problems in the world today and is also a serious “mental illness.” A lot of people don’t realise this!
Also, narcissism is said to come from low (unhealthy) self-esteem but others say that narcissist have “too much” self-esteem. At the end of the day it’s really all about a damaged/wounded/scarred ego (self or personality). This is because personality/self (with a small “s”) and ego mean the same thing.
It has also been said that around 80% of people today have an unhealthy “sense of self” to some degree due to mental, social, physical, emotional, domestic and spiritual reasons.
With that said, we would like to ask you to take this simple assessment (test) and submit your score in the survey box below. And don’t worry, it is completely anonymous—no-one will know who you are.
To really understand what the questions mean you MUST read the book entitled Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem by Marilyn J.Sorensen from where the test is taken.
Many thanks in advance for taking the test and submitting your score.
Please note: If you are submitting your result on a mobile phone or tablet you may have to scroll back up again to press the submit button. You may also need to turn your phone on to landscape view.
Please note: It is also likely that a few of the people who came out as healthy may be lying to themselves (which is common).
More on the lady who designed the test:
People who lack self-esteem are more ‘toxic’, for the most part.
In general, they are; abrasive, tactless, nit-picky, controlling, argumentative, bitchy, think they know everything, perfectionists, obnoxious, hypersensitive, nasty piss-takers, bullies, create and attract drama/chaos, work in positions of power for the sake of power, depressive, needy (co-dependent), reactive, domineering, lacking in compassion, aggressive, manipulative, have chronic addictions, closed-minded, judgmental, rigid, passive, passive-aggressive, chronically insecure, suffer from jealousy, always anxious, generally negative, critical, overachievers or underachievers (lack “balance”), etc.
Here are some behaviours taken from the book review for Breaking The Chain of Low Self-Esteem
A lot of people thought that some of what I put on this list was a load of rubbish. So I decided to email it over to Marilyn J Sorensen, PhD who is regarded as the number one expert in world with it comes to self-esteem.
Her words are in brackets…
1 – Nasty sarcasm.
2 – Bullying.
3 – Not being direct in conversation, and at the same time having no tact.
4 – Indecisiveness.
5 – Thinking you know everything. (LSE and/or narcissism)
6 – Being a too much of a perfectionist. (In dress, at work, in everything, meaning if they can’t be perfect, they won’t do it)
7 – None or not much eye contact when talking to others.
8 – Being too loud and over talkative (jabbering on). (A mixture of unregulated extroversion and LSE)
9 – Sniping about other people all the time, behind their backs. (Passive-Aggressive behavior)
10 – Lack of inner-stability and calmness. (Full of anxiety)
11 – Making weak-minded excuses, all the time. (Fear and anxiety)
12 – Getting a job for the sake of it where power over others is needed e.g. being police officer. Rather than doing to job to help society for the better.
13 – Self-medicating with spending (a sign of low self-worth & over-eating, leading to eating disorders)
14 – Being generally jealous of others all the time.
15 – Constant feeling of insecurity. (Constantly comparing themselves to others)
16 – Taking the Mickey out of others for the sake of it. (If I put you down, I lift myself up..WRONG)
17 – Feeling like being judged all the time and unable to cope with small problems.
18 – Nit picking at others/destructive criticism towards others and being overly opinionated.
19 – Having an inferiority complex/always feeling small.
20 – Lack of self-liking/love.
21 – Glaring at other (more confident) people.
22 – Over consumption of alcohol. (Dope, food too)
23 – Passive aggression online (and offline).
24- Lastly, the most obvious sign of low self-esteem is sloughed “poor me” posture with forward head.
They also tend not to take care of themselves physically (consistently), which is why so many people are overweight, sick, unhealthy, and die from diseases (barring any genetic disorders and, of course, mis-information). This also doesn’t mean we have to live like monks.
Low self-esteem basically manifests itself differently from one person to the next. This is a fact!
A lot of people with this problem wear a mask of “confidence.” But it is not about confidence. Everyone is confident about something. That is external.
Here are a FEW reasons why people can lack self-esteem:
At a mental/emotional level:
Being ignored as a child
Having a critical parent(s)
Being a middle child
Being abused as a child
Being brought up with little or no money
Seeing parents go through a divorce
Playing second fiddle to an older sibling(s)
At a physical level:
Not being gifted with physical good looks and not being able to accept it. (Beauty in the eye of the beholder is not entirely true).
Being out of shape and/or having an average-looking body.
Being born with a certain condition and/or deformity and not being able to accept it.
Just having an unhealthy body that is run down, and internally weak and vulnerable.
At a spiritual level:
Being brought up in a disempowering, dogmatic religion.
In short, lack of self-esteem is a prevalent, world-wide problem – it is said that up to 80% of people suffer from it. So many people have said to me that we all have “dips”, but the fact of the matter is that if, for example, people have (unconscious) unresolved conditioning problems from childhood and a body that they don’t like being in (from the neck up and down), then their self-esteem is compromised forever.