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This small questionnaire will only take a few moments. Try to answer the questions as honestly as you can – after all, only you have access to the answers. Just make a note of your answers, then calculate your score; you’ll find out how your sex drive is affecting your relationship(s)!
Q1. How often do you have sex with your partner(s)?
a) everyday b) 2 or 3 times a week c) 2 or 3 times a month d) less
Q2. How often do you have sex with someone other than your partner?
a) everyday b) 1 or 2 times a week c) occasionally d) never
Q3. How often do you think about having sex?
a) everyday b) 2 or 3 times a week c) 2 or 3 times a month d) less
Q4. How often do you masturbate?
a) everyday b) 2 or 3 times a week c) 2 or 3 times a month d) less
Q5. When having sex with your partner, do you ever use Sex Toys?
a) yes, a lot b) yes, occasionally c) I’ve tried it d) never
Q6. When masturbating, do you ever use Sex Toys?
a) yes, a lot b) yes, occasionally c) I’ve tried it d) never
Q7. Do you ever role-play when having sex, i.e. dressing up?
a) yes, a lot b) yes, occasionally c) I’ve tried it d) never
In this segment, mark ALL the answers that apply!
Q8. What events are most likely to turn you on?
a) watching an x-rated movie (with your partner or on your own)
b) watching the Saturday Night premiere, with the love scenes
c) waking up/going to bed next to your partner
d) romantic dinner / evening for the two of you
Q9. Where have you had sex?
a) in the bedroom
b) all over the house
c) in the garden
d) in a public place
Q10. What fantasies have you fulfilled?
a) yours
b) your partners
c) ones that you saw in an x-rated movie or magazine
d) none
SCORING:
Now tally all the values beside the answers that you have selected; remember that questions 8, 9 and 10 may have multiple answers.
Q1. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q2. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q3. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q4. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q5. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q6. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q7. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q8. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1 Q9. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1 Q10. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1
INTERPRETING YOUR SCORE
IF YOUR SCORE IS BETWEEN 0 and 11.
You have a very low sex drive. This may have a negative effect on your relationships. I know that a healthy relationship is not simply based on sex, but also on on trust, love, and communication. However, intimacy leads to intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, such as touch intimacy (non sexual – hugs, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. When you have sexual intimacy with your partner, you are laying the paving stones for a more intimate relationship. You need to try to lose some of your inhibitions and allow sexual intimacy with your partner more often. There are materials available, such as tutorial books and DVDs, on learning how to become more intimate with your partner.
IF YOUR SCORE IS BETWEEN 12 and 22.
You have a perfectly healthy and normal sex drive. This will have a positive effect on your relationships. Your sexual intimacy will lead to other forms of intimacy with your partner, ultimately taking you to the next level.
IF YOUR SCORE IS BETWEEN 23 and 33.
You have a high sex drive. This may have a negative effect on any relationships you have. You have to balance all the different aspects of intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, such as touch intimacy (non-sexual – hugs, caress, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. If you focus on just one, your relationships will struggle to get to the next level. You need to understand that there are more to relationships than just sex.